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Interracial Dating and BLM


             Black lives matter is one of those trending topics right now. But oddly enough there is a growing trend with black women dating interracially, especially white men. So can you be a supporter of BLM and be in relationship with a person from a group that you claim is oppressing you?  

 

             Let's back up for a second and talk about what the Black live matter movement is, how it started, what they do. According to blacklivesmatter.com, "Black Lives Matter is an ideological and political intervention in a world where Black lives are systematically and intentionally targeted for demise. It is an affirmation of Black folks’ humanity, our contributions to this society, and our resilience in the face of deadly oppression." Black lives matter was started by three women: Alicia Garza, Patrisse Cullors, and Opal Tometi. The hashtag was brought to life after George Zimmerman was acquitted of charges for the death of Trevon Marton. BLM pops up every time "The Oppressor" (cough cough the white man) has so-called "done us an injustice".  Now we have a background on what black lifes matter is, we can take a look at how it has an effect on relationships. 

 

         BLM, created by three black women, is centered around systematic racism of blacks. Who is doing the systematic racism? Well it would have to be whoever is running "the system" of America which, since America was colonized it's been the so called white male. Despite some of our black women pumping their fist, rocking their natural hair, and yelling "BLACK LIVES MATTER!" , we are curling up with white men  

 

      Which begs the question who are we talking to when we say black lives matter? If we are talking to whites as a whole, how is sleeping with a white man going to change anything? If white people are so racist and awful to blacks why aren't we staying with our black men? If you are saying black lives matter to the black community, what are we doing in our communities to make it better besides protesting and making social media posts about all the injustice. Let's make our community great again!  

 

         Ladies, if we really want to take pride in who we are and want other groups of people to respect us, we have to start within our community. This means if you identify with being an African American woman and you find value in that, we are taking accountability for what is going on in our communities. We aren't blaming the white man for the reason we aren't being treated right. WE are making sure we are treated right! We aren't are going outside our community to date because we are buying into the myth that the black man doesn’t want us or know how to treat us. We have to acting like women and have higher standards for our relationships so, we attract black men instead of grown boys. 

 

       What should Black lifes matter mean to us? It should mean we are working inside of our communities being the best mothers, sister, daughters, wives, friends, WOMEN that we can be. We have to show more love and femininity. We cannot say that black lives matter when we are tearing down our own communities then leaving to go join another community that doesn’t want us there.            

 

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